Try to remember at all times that it’s YOU that matters most not the company or the product.

Yes,  the company and product  are important, and doing your do diligence before you join is an absolute  must, but don’t forget that these are only parts of the whole picture.

People don’t join a business, they join you.
The more valuable You become to others the more they will seek you and not the other way around.

That is the secret.

If you think that people will join you because your product has the highest ORAC value or because your company is being endorsed by a celebrity you’re wrong.  So what makes your opportunity special?  You might find it surprising but the answer is You.

Do You PERSONALLY bring value to others?
You have to stop looking outside yourself for something that will bring you success. Such thing does not exist.

And stop thinking that the product and pay plan are your reasons for failure.
Of course choosing a product that brings great value to the end consumer and a company with the distributors interest at heart are extremely important.
But your business is not the company. Your business is You and Your marketing system.
So leading with the company and product is not the answer.

I keep seeing the ”my comp plan is better than yours” arguments.
So here a valuable lesson I’ve learned :

-Every minute spent drilling holes in someone else pay plan is a minute that you could have spent building You.Inc.
-Every time you go on defending your company pay plan or explaining why your product is better than his, you lose posture and credibility.
-Every time that you share your product and comp plan with anything with a pulse you actually scream :”I’m an amateur!”

The true keys to success are learning people skills, learning How to market and…applying what you’ve learned.

Also,  start taking responsibility for your actions and failures.
Stop the blaming game. Remember that in order for things to change You have to change and not the other way around.

I’ve learned an important lesson from Jerry ”The Rhino” Clark :
Success comes in three stages: Self Mastery-People Mastery-Life Mastery.

Work on yourself first. Work on your posture and on bringing value to others. Learn people skills and only then you’ll be able to take control of your life.

Developing posture and building the leadership mentality is crucial in MLM.
So build You.Inc because that is the most important part of the equation! Everything else comes second.

One of the things we have to learn in this business is to discipline our disappointments.

I know how hard that is, I’ve been there.
I still have keep that in mind when things don’t go as well as they should. It’s life!
When we don’t get what we want and get it fast, what is the first thing that comes to mind?
”I’m going to quit”. That is being followed by ”this does not work”…

I remember my ”I’m going to quit” moment. It was December 2007. I started my business three months earlier. I worked hard every day to get prospects. Nothing happened until that December morning.
I logged in my back office and I saw the e-mail I’ve been waiting for :
”Daniela Riess, you have a prospect!”
I felt like I’m going to faint. I was so excited that my heart started pounding. And then, with my hands shaking I opened my e-mail, scrolled down with a huge smile on my face,
and there was my prospect:

First name: Pewee
Last name: Herman
Phone number: 123-12-1234
City : Unknown
Address Unknown
Zip Unknown
Country US

My smile disappeared.
All the negative emotions took over.
The disappointment and anger I felt were overwhelming.
”This is ridiculous” I said to myself… ” I can’t believe this is happening…
All that work I put myself thru and for what? Peewee Herman? You got to be kidding me…”
I cried the blues and felt sorry for myself for about an hour. I wanted to quit so bad.
”This is so not worth my time” I said out loud.

I had two choices at that moment. One was to quit and another was to keep going. I remembered reading Napoleon Hill’s book Think And Grow Rich.
Have you? If yes, do you remember the chapter that tells the ”3 feet from the gold story” ?
That was exactly where I was standing, 3 feet from the gold.

I decided to keep going…
It makes so much sense when it is said that success is often disguised in temporary defeat.
Just when you think it’s over, you decide to take one more step, and then…your life starts to change for the better.
But we have to take that extra step and that is one of the hardest thing you’ll ever have to do, I promise you. Your feet are so heavy and you so very tired and disappointing.
It feels like you just hit a brick wall and there is no way of moving forward.peewee1
And then you remember that you have to discipline your disappointments. You remember the 3 feet from the gold story.

So, my friend, have you been there? What kind of decision did you make ( if any ) when that happened to you?
Here are a few things that you might want to remember if Pee Wee Herman comes along:

#1. Discipline your disappointments.
#2. Beat temporary defeat at it’s own game by taking that step.

Because when you do something often enough, a ratio will appear…
…and once a ratio appears, it tends to continue…

Way too often we our idea of happiness has everything to do with money and nothing beyond that. I’ve read somewhere that most people, when they are being asked what they want most in life say ”money” or ”to win the lottery”.

Is that really the true key to happiness? Or maybe Giving Without Want is the answer?

After doing a little bit of research, I found these articles that might answer that question:

”In his darkest moments, Jack Whittaker has sometimes wondered if winning the nearly $315 million Powerball game was really worth it.

Jack Whittaker often wonders if he should have just torn up that winning Powerball ticket.

The jackpot that was the stuff of dreams turned into a nightmare: His wife left him and his drug-addicted granddaughter — his protege and heir — died. He endured constant requests for money.

Almost five years later, Whittaker is left with things money can’t cure: His daughter’s cancer, a long list of indiscretions documented in newspapers and court records, and an inability to trust others.

“I don’t have any friends,” he said in a lengthy interview with The Associated Press. “Every friend that I’ve had, practically, has wanted to borrow money or something and of course, once they borrow money from you, you can’t be friends anymore.”
By Steve Rhode

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”Evelyn Adams, who won the New Jersey lottery not just once but twice (1985, 1986) to the tune of $5.4 million. Today the money is all gone and Adams lives in a trailer.

“Everybody wanted my money. Everybody had their hand out. I never learned one simple word in the English language — ‘No.’ I wish I had the chance to do it all over again. I’d be much smarter about it now,” says Adams who also lost money at the slot machines in Atlantic City.

William “Bud” Post won $16.2 million in the Pennsylvania lottery in 1988 but now lives on his Social Security ($450 a month) and food stamps.

“I wish it never happened. It was totally a nightmare.”

Suzanne Mullins won $4.2 million in the Virginia lottery in 1993. Now she’s deeply in debt to a company that lent her money using the winnings as collateral.

“My understanding is she has no assets,” says lawyer who sued her.

Ken Proxmire was a machinist when he won $1 million in the Michigan lottery. He moved to California, went into the car business with his brothers and within five years, Ken had filed for bankruptcy.

“Dad’s now back to work as a machinist,” says his son.

Willie Hurt of Lansing, Mich., won $3.1 million in 1989. Two years later he was broke and charged with murder. His lawyer says Hurt spent his fortune on a divorce and crack cocaine.

Charles Riddle of Belleville, Mich., won $1 million in 1975. Afterward, he got divorced, faced several lawsuits and was indicted for selling cocaine.

Missourian Janite Lee won $18 million in 1993. But according to published reports, eight years after winning, Lee had filed for bankruptcy with only $700 left in two bank accounts and no cash on hand.”
compiled by the web sites www.SuddenMoney.com and www.creditdebtlife.com